Casual Sex: Fun Or A Hazard?

Sex in today’s world is no big deal. It has become a physical need that has to be satiated like hunger or sleep. So casual sex is common. Now should you indulge in such sex? Is it just fun or is it a risk best avoided?

The answer to those questions depends entirely on the kind of person you are and your state of mind. An individual from a traditional background would find it difficult to let go of his or her inhibitions and jump into bed just for the sake of sex.

Someone from a more open family atmosphere would possibly not think twice before having sex with the first person he or she is attracted to.

Casual sex is not something one should indulge in before thinking of the consequences. There are so many mishaps that might happen.

● Pregnancy is a common fallout especially amongst the young and inexperienced. So remember sex whether casual or a culmination of a romance should always be safe. Think of contraception first, be it condoms or pills or all the various other options available today.

● Rape is not uncommon when one jumps into casual sex. Sex should always be on mutual consent. It should be a thing of joy, not aggression and pain. Be absolutely sure your partner is a considerate person before indulging in casual sex.

● Casual sex with multiple people ultimately may take the joy out of the act. It can become mechanical and ultimately pointless especially for a woman. After all sex is not just physical satisfaction for women, the mind plays a huge role too.

So sex is a very integral part of one’s life should be enjoyed. It should bring fulfillment and not be the cause of problems that may hurt and vitiate one’s peace of mind.

Comfortably Adding Roleplaying into the Bedroom

Have you ever considered adding roleplaying into your sexual repertoire? Maybe a little dressing up and playing pretend? Putting on the clothing to enhance the persona you’re pretending to be can be a lot of fun, and an incredible turn on. If you are looking for a gentle way of bringing a roleplaying scenario into your relationship without making your partner feel as though you are looking for something they are not providing you, then here are a few tips.

1. How to Bring Up Roleplayin

Communication is the basis of any strong relationship—sexual or otherwise. If you want to bring up roleplaying, try just talking about it. Make sure your partner understands that you do not want him or her to feel as though you want something aside from them, but instead, you want something with them. You want to recreate the feeling of the first time you two were together, or add in a new dynamic to your passion, but finding a balance of adding in the new without anyone feeling like they’re being replaced is difficult at best. Let them know that your ultimate goal is to increase the passion between the two of you. It should be viewed as something very intimate between the two of you as it will totally depend on your specific preferences as to what is allowable and what is not.

2. Suggestions for Beginner’s Roleplaying

Many people have considered something as simple as one partner pretending to be a doctor, firefighter, or police officer, while the other plays the patient or victim, but there is a lot more to roleplaying that can be had if the circumstances are right. Depending on what each partner likes as far as style, position, and intensity, you can specifically cater to those needs during roleplaying sessions. Here are a few ideas on places to start:

● Maid or butler and the homeowner, complete with the micro skirt, bustier, and feather duster, and plenty of bending over to dust everything around the house

● Homeowner and delivery person, with either partner not having the money for the tip, but trying to initiate a way to take the tip out in trade

● Recreating the time you two first met, try and mimic all of the details down to the music that was playing, clothing worn, and even the preliminary sexual tension

● Student and teacher, using a desk as a prop and a ruler as a flogger

● Yoga teacher, with one person trying to recreate poses, while the other slowly slides his or her hands across every part of the body in an attempt to teach any number of yoga positions

3. What Can Help Enhance Roleplaying

When roleplaying is established, there are many props that can enhance roleplaying even further. Some of the more traditional props include handcuffs, blindfolds, and vibrating massagers. If you and your partner want to take roleplaying one step further, you can include items such as dildos, cock rings, nipple clamps, or whips. This all depends on how far both people are comfortable taking each scenario. One thing to keep in mind, however. If you plan on taking roleplaying into a more risqué direction, make sure that both partners agree on a safe word that will stop all activity instantly when said. Roleplaying can really enhance your passion and intimacy if done right, or it can make sex taboo if done wrong. Your best bet is speaking openly about the topic and incorporating the desires of both people into each scenario.

Relationship: Enhancing Desire through Open Communication

As most people know, open and honest communication is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship. This is true for friendships, marriages, romances, or even working relationships. If you want to be able to have a steady, active, and healthy sexual relationship, you need to be able to speak freely with your partner about everything you want, hope for, and need from them to feel fulfilled.

1. How to Start Out

The first part you need to consider when communicating your desires to your partner is knowing exactly what your desires really are. Don’t just bring up this type of conversation without proper thought being put into it first. You want your talk to bring about change and enhancement of your relationship, so make sure you have a solid idea of what things are most important to you and allow your partner the same courtesy. Here are some things to think about:

● Who do you prefer to initiate?

● What positions feel the best? Do you prefer to be on top or does doggy-style turn you on more?

● What activities do you enjoy? Do you want more oral sex?

● Do you like roleplaying or playing dress-up? If so, what do you like most? Business suits and thigh-highs with stilettos, or quiet and shy librarian?

● What about your partner turns you on the most? Their cologne? Their kisses?

● Are there things you would like to try that you have not tried before? Maybe anal sex?

● Are there things you have done before that you do not want to try again? Like kinky sex?

● What would enhance the pleasure you receive and give? Is it a special touch, more moaning, or maybe more visual stimulation?

2. Don’t Be Afraid to Express Your Desires

Once you figure out the things you want the most, express those desires. Don’t hold back if you want to see your partner dress up for you, or if you want to try giving your partner a strip tease. Just remain open minded to what your partner suggests and see if there is anything you can do to accommodate the needs your partner brings up as well. If you both are trying to help enhance each other’s desires, you are both going to end up with more fulfilling orgasms than had you not communicated those needs in the first place.

When you openly talk about the desires you have, you are going to find out which of those desires your partner is able to fill. If you want your partner to go out of his or her comfort zone to make some of your desires come true, then you need to be willing to offer the same in return.

Working together can help you both achieve the best sex you’ve ever had, but you need to be able to put words to the thoughts and images you have running through your mind.

Don’t life your sex life in your fantasies. Make them come true with open communication and direct responses.

How Having Sex Can Make You Healthier

Just because you’re single, does not mean that you cannot have sex, right? Well, as long as you’re doing it safely, that is. Don’t let your single status stop you from enjoying the perks that go hand-in-hand with each sexual experience. If you were unaware at just how beneficial blissfully orgasmic sex really is to your health, then take a look through these perks and see which of them will be best for you!

1. Helps You Sleep Better

When you have a rigorous sexual experience, your body releases oxytocin. This, in turn, allows your body to sleep more soundly and lets you fall asleep faster. The more deep sleep your body is allowed to get, the healthier you are all around. Plus, your body is worn out and needs the sleep to recover and prepare for the next round!

2. Great Cardio Exercise

If you have been considering joining a gym to get a good cardio workout, you may want to hold on to those gym memberships. Having sex can increase your heart rate and pump blood harder and faster through your system, allowing you the same benefits of a solid cardio workout at the gym. The benefit is that there is no monthly membership in order to get this type of workout. The only expense most people have is whatever method of protection they invest in.

3. Lowers Blood Pressure

The endorphins released through sex lower your overall stress levels, and allow you the benefit of decreasing your blood pressure. You will be able to handle life’s ups and downs better with your blood pressure staying under control, and the risk of heart disease can then decrease. The more often you have sex, and the longer that each encounter lasts, the stronger the health effects are for all of the participants.

4. Increases Your Immune System

The healthier your body is in general, the stronger your immune system usually is. This means that if you work out regularly, you are giving your body the benefits it needs to be strong and fight off whatever it comes into contact with. Ideally, you want to make sure your immune system is strong if you’re going to be kissing and licking another person’s body, just in case they are coming down with a cold.

5. Helps You Experience less Pain

Your body produces oxytocin during sex, which boosts how your body feels. This means that your nerve endings experience less pain after you have had sex. You will not feel as much pain from arthritis, headaches, and even minor injuries. However, you may want to consider more activities like oral sex if the pain is coming from a part of your body that could be worsened by having sex.

The endorphins you feel after sex, specifically after your orgasm, give your entire body a boost, so enjoy all the sex you can, single or not! The old beliefs that required a person to be married to have sex have long since passed, so don’t be afraid to do what you need to do to get healthier. Just make sure you protect yourself from everything that could be sexually transmitted. If the point of your experience is to get healthy and stay that way, then the last thing you want to do is go about it irresponsibly and get yourself sick in the process.